A Note to Parents

Dear Parent:

Chances are you've found this page by looking at a browser history, checking a favorites list or happened onto your child while he or she was surfing the web.

If so, you're probably in a state of shock right now. You're feeling anger, fear, resentment, guilt and bewilderment.

Your child is not gay because of anything you did or anything anyone else did. No one recruited your child, because no one could have. That's not how homosexuality arises, regardless of what has been said in the popular press. So please don't feel guilty or resentful. It's not neccessary.

Please understand that your child didn't come to my site for sexual minority teens looking for pornography or a good time; That's not what this page is for, and the content reflects that. Rather, this page was written for sexual minority teens in crisis. If your child has bookmarked this site, it is probably because he or she is hurting and is badly in need of help, or has a friend who is in crisis. If this is the case, your help as a parent is needed in your child's life now more than ever. You'll need to approach your child in a manner of sincerely seeking to help rather than being angry or confrontational.

I understand your fear and your anger, and so I've written an entire site just for you. Please read it! I've received a great deal of help in writing it from parents who have been through what you're going through right now. It will help you understand your child better than you ever have imagined you could. It will answer a lot of questions you've had about your child that never made sense until now. What you'll discover is that the crisis you face at the moment is actually a great opportunity for you.

Also, there's a support group for parents like you, and its run by parents just like you. They have many hundreds of local chapters all over the world and there's almost certainly one convenient to where you live. I strongly urge you to contact them and attend a local meeting. There are parents there who have been through what you're going through now, and can help you out in ways you can't imagine. It will be more than well worth your time; you'll make many great new friends and it may even save your family.

P.S. If you wish to write to me, I'd more than welcome the opportunity to hear from you. I've communicated with hundreds of parents like you over the years, and I've always enjoyed doing so, whatever their issue or point of view. You can write to me, Scott Bidstrup.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. I wish you all the best.

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